I'm taking break from my boyfriend about 6 months. I'm tired of misunderstood and so on. Moreover i just watched movie, "How to be single". It make me want to separate from him for a while. I want to know if i will miss him, appreciate him when he is not my boyfriend anymore. I'm curious if there is someone can replace his place ? So from end of October till end of April of separation, we decide to get back and start dating again. What is interesting ? I feel like a new warm relationship. So many stories to share, so many changes to be missed.
10 Relationship benefits of spending time away from your partner
If you are part of a couple there are many benefits alone-time can
bring to your relationship. Here are some tips for how to make the most
of your time with yourself in order to benefit your partnership.
Connect more deeply – Spending time alone is a great way to connect with yourself. From this greater understanding of yourself you are able to make a deeper connection with those around you, including your significant other.
Appreciate your partner more – Life is about balance, and time away from a loved one can give you the space you need to actually take a step back and realize the value of your partner and the relationship you have with them. Missing somebody and looking forward to seeing them can have a very positive impact on your relationship.
Reduce stress levels – While you may or may not think of your relationship as a distraction and a source of anxiety, the fact is that any relationship is a demand on your time and energy. When relationships are not running so smoothly this can create stress. Being alone helps your mind to switch off and declutter.
Work out problems more easily – When you are up-close to an issue it can be difficult to deal with. It is often far easier if you create some space in which to focus and maneuver your thoughts and feelings. Not spending enough time apart doesn’t allow you this problem-solving window, so emotions and issues can build up to the point where they can become confusing and unmanageable.
Avoid neediness – Alone-time propels you to be less dependent on your partner and more self-sufficient. This helps maintain a feeling of equality in your relationship and stops one partner from feeling stifled. It can also make you more attractive to your partner.
Prioritize what’s important – If the time you spend as a couple has no limit or cutoffs, then it is easier to under-appreciate quality time together. Prioritizing a relationship can mean putting quality above quantity. It’s not how much time you spend together but how you are spending your time that really counts.
Energize and revitalize – Relaxing time to yourself recharges your batteries and enables you to bring renewed vigor into your time together as a couple. This avoids the relationship drain, where some individuals seem to lose their natural buoyancy when one becomes two.
Achieve more balanced perceptions – Your perceptions are changeable and not based on facts, but on your feelings. With any relationship, past events and present-day perceptions, as well as views of what the future may hold, all feed into your relationship and influence how you react. Alone-time can help even out biased perceptions to inspire a more balanced view of your relationship and the world around you. This means you can break free of the same reactions and interactions and grow together.
Bring up new and dynamic conversations – It is really healthy to be able to bring something to the table in a relationship. By enjoying your own interests and pursuits you will have much more to talk about and add a dynamic spark to your time together. It is vital that communication doesn’t just focus on the practicalities of your lives together, but celebrates your personalities and characters too.
Never lose your sense of Self – When relationships run into trouble or end, it is easy to feel as if you have been cut adrift; as if you are alone and no longer know who you are without the other person. However, having a strong sense of who you are can help you reconnect, whether with yourself or with a partner. Alone-time ensures that you do not lose sight of your own identity; as you alone are the source of your own happiness.
Hope you enjoy with this sharing.
Adios.
Sunday, 30 April 2017
Tuesday, 4 April 2017
9 Reasons You're In The Friendzone
HINT, IT'S NOT BECAUSE YOU'RE TOO NICE
If she says you remind her too much of an ex, that might be because the breakup is still fresh, or maybe everyone reminds her of him. If she says you remind her of her brother, well, you probably look like her brother. You can't blame a girl for being honest about that.
2. SHE'S NOT SURE WHAT KIND OF GUY YOU ARE YET
When they get friend zoned, many guys assume it's because they were too nice. Girls aren't nearly as turned off by kindness as many dudes assume. Putting you in your platonic place may not be a conscious test, but your reaction may tell her a lot; it's an effective way to separate the (genuinely) nice guys from the aggressive, entitled-acting jerks.
3. BECAUSE SHE'S ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE ELSE
It's almost impossible to entertain the idea of a romantic relationship with a person if you're hung up on someone else. She might be putting you in the friend zone because, for now, that's the only place where there's room. Take it as a compliment that she's not using you to get over another guy, and wants to keep you around.
4. BECAUSE SHE'S TOO BUSY RIGHT NOW
While all relationships take work, friendships are lower maintenance than relationship relationships. That may make friendship seem more attractive to a person with a lot on their plate, even if there's mutual romantic attraction. In which case, a friends with benefits scenario may be possible, but exercise caution or someone could get hurt.
5. TO GIVE YOU A CHANCE TO GROW UP FIRST
Getting sent to the friend zone is sometimes like getting sent to your room as a kid — you're there for acting immature. She might not hold that against you, but also not want to nag you into becoming the mature man of her dreams. She probably just wants a friend more than a project. The older you get, the more you'll appreciate people who let you grow up at your own pace.
8. TO GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER BEFORE DECIDING TO BE ROMANTIC
Many girls aren't comfortable dating guys whom they wouldn't otherwise be friends with. That's not a bad thing. That's not even the friend zone; it's their comfort zone. Chill out, be patient and get to know her too, but don't make any assumptions about where it's going.
2. SHE'S NOT SURE WHAT KIND OF GUY YOU ARE YET
When they get friend zoned, many guys assume it's because they were too nice. Girls aren't nearly as turned off by kindness as many dudes assume. Putting you in your platonic place may not be a conscious test, but your reaction may tell her a lot; it's an effective way to separate the (genuinely) nice guys from the aggressive, entitled-acting jerks.
3. BECAUSE SHE'S ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE ELSE
It's almost impossible to entertain the idea of a romantic relationship with a person if you're hung up on someone else. She might be putting you in the friend zone because, for now, that's the only place where there's room. Take it as a compliment that she's not using you to get over another guy, and wants to keep you around.
4. BECAUSE SHE'S TOO BUSY RIGHT NOW
While all relationships take work, friendships are lower maintenance than relationship relationships. That may make friendship seem more attractive to a person with a lot on their plate, even if there's mutual romantic attraction. In which case, a friends with benefits scenario may be possible, but exercise caution or someone could get hurt.
5. TO GIVE YOU A CHANCE TO GROW UP FIRST
Getting sent to the friend zone is sometimes like getting sent to your room as a kid — you're there for acting immature. She might not hold that against you, but also not want to nag you into becoming the mature man of her dreams. She probably just wants a friend more than a project. The older you get, the more you'll appreciate people who let you grow up at your own pace.
6. BECAUSE SHE KNOWS YOUR HISTORY TOO WELL ... OR YOU KNOW HERS
If you're acquainted (or friends) with someone in her sexual history, or visa versa, promoting you from platonic status might be too weird to be worth it. Even if your exes are cool with it, you don't always want to read the book when you've already got the CliffsNotes.
If you're acquainted (or friends) with someone in her sexual history, or visa versa, promoting you from platonic status might be too weird to be worth it. Even if your exes are cool with it, you don't always want to read the book when you've already got the CliffsNotes.
7. BECAUSE IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU -- SHE'S DEALING WITH HER OWN STUFF
It's very possible that she's friend zoning you because she friend zones everyone. Relationships are hard, and recognizing you're not ready for one isn't a bad thing. It's actually a pretty rad quality to have in a friend because it reminds you to work on yourself first.
It's very possible that she's friend zoning you because she friend zones everyone. Relationships are hard, and recognizing you're not ready for one isn't a bad thing. It's actually a pretty rad quality to have in a friend because it reminds you to work on yourself first.
8. TO GET TO KNOW YOU BETTER BEFORE DECIDING TO BE ROMANTIC
Many girls aren't comfortable dating guys whom they wouldn't otherwise be friends with. That's not a bad thing. That's not even the friend zone; it's their comfort zone. Chill out, be patient and get to know her too, but don't make any assumptions about where it's going.
9. BECAUSE SHE GENUINELY JUST WANTS TO BE FRIENDS
If you don't see signs that point to any of the above reasons, it's probably because she sees more friendship potential than anything ... and she's letting you know that she doesn't want to trade being friends for a relationship she can't picture working out. Her first step in being a good friend is not wasting your time ... your next step is to not take it personally.
Okay thats all for now.
Adios.
If you don't see signs that point to any of the above reasons, it's probably because she sees more friendship potential than anything ... and she's letting you know that she doesn't want to trade being friends for a relationship she can't picture working out. Her first step in being a good friend is not wasting your time ... your next step is to not take it personally.
Okay thats all for now.
Adios.
Sunday, 2 April 2017
Tanda Lelaki Tak Suka Kita
Okay, kali ni aku nak cerita pasal tanda-tanda lelaki suka kita or tak. Fakta yang akan aku ceritakan ni datangnya daripada lelaki sendiri. Bukan main-main okay. So, let's check it out. Kita tengok betul or tidak ?
1. Lelaki tak mulakan perbualan dahulu
Kalau dia tak initiate the conversation first, he probably doesn't like you. Girls, kalau asyik kita je yang sms or call or whatnot, dan dia tak ada effort nak berbual dengan kita dulu, itu bukanlah petanda yang baik. I'm sorry, he doesn't like you. well, He likes you as a friend but loves... ???
2. Sibuk kalau kita ajak ke mana-mana or nak buat apa-apa aktiviti
Lepas tu kita tanya dia sama ada dia nak join or tak, kalau dia kata dia sibuk, maybe just maybe he doesn't like you. Sure, dia agaknya memang busy tapi kalau kita selalu ajak, and dia selalu busy je memanjang, then you probably still alone. Sorry. Kalau dia memang suka perempuan tu, dia sanggup tinggalkan apa je semata-mata nak hangout dengan 'buah hati' kesayangan dia tu.
3. Not really personal
Kalau kita bersembang dengan lelaki tu and he's not really personal with you.....hmmm.... Kalau dia sekadar bersembang biasa-biasa je, he's really not into it. Based on pengalaman dari seorang lelaki, kalau dia suka perempuan tu, dia nak bagitahu everything pasal dia, pasal family dia dekat perempuan yang dia suka tu. ALL THE LITTLE DETAILS. 😲 Everything!
4. Bro, Man, Dude or other masculine nicknames
Kalau dia panggil kita dengan nama-nama seperti di atas, NO just No. I'm sorry, tapi kita memang berada jauh dari 'zon cinta' tu. Pengalaman di tempat kerja ada seorang abang ni memang rapat ngan perempuan, tetapi menggunakan kata ganti diri, hei bro, nak aku tolong tak kau buat kerja tu ? Perempuan kot dapat bro.
Tak kisahlah korang tengok movie The Notebook berjuta-juta kali dengan lelaki tu pun, kalau dia buat macam tu, korang hanyalah sekadar best friend dia sahaja. BRO friend maybe? HAHAHA
5. Tengok perempuan lain semasa berbual dengan kita
Andai kata kita tengah bersembang sakan dengan dia, tapi tiba-tiba mata dia laju je tengok perempuan hot yang lain.
'ooo, damn! tengoklah perempuan tu. Hot gila..' or
'perasan tak yang Neelofa tu seksi kan?'
Hmm.. i don't know if he likes you or not. Dia suka Neelofa. Nope, just nope. Kalau betul dia suka perempuan tu, dia cuma nakkan perhatian sepenuhnya dari perempuan tu je. Bukannya perempuan lain or Neelofa. He likes you and only you.
6. Seeing, dating, or married
Finally, kalau lelaki yang korang suka tu tengah 'jumpa' someone or dah berpunya, or berkahwin dengan perempuan lain... he really really doesn't like you AT ALL or at least he SHOULDN'T! No!! Well, maybe situasi ni berbeza dengan lelaki yang pemalu.
Tapi come on lah, kalau dah suka, jangan dipendam je. Kalau rasa dialah yang bakal membawa kita bersama-sama ke syurga, carilah peluang untuk menambat hatinya okay. Tapi kalau umur baru belasan tahun, sabarlah dulu ye, banyak lagi masa yang ada. Sedangkan nak buka pintu almari ambil baju pun kena ada effort kan? Takkanlah cinta ni tak perlu ada usaha? Takpelah baju, sampai jodoh kita bertemu juga ya dak... Okay, that's all for now!
Adios.
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